I Haven’t Changed

Have you ever had someone say to you “You’ve changed”. This comment will usually come about after you’ve disagreed with that person, or your opinion has altered so that it no longer aligns with theirs. I get told this a lot, and more by family members than friends. As I have moved on through the years, my ‘friends’ become fewer but the quality is higher.

But have I really changed? I do not believe so.

I’m still the same weight and height. My hair colour only varies in the shade of red I apply to it. My eyes still see the same, I still have all of my other senses intact and as far as I can tell, I haven’t really changed a bit!

What has changed however, is the way I ‘see’ things.

What once may have upset me, disturbed me or even shocked me, not longer does but then things that I used to let slip by now really make me question why that was so and why I no longer let them go without a challenge.

Call it getting older, maturing, more experienced or whatever. I have been growing mentally since I stopped growing physically as do we all – well, with some people I know this could be debatable! We all ‘mature’ at different rates.

I was once told by a dear friend of mine that I was quickly ‘outgrowing’ someone in my life and that I would be stunting my own growth to keep them around. Do you know someone like that? Do you know someone who has kept someone else in their lives regardless of the fact that their growth may be affected by it?

Despite this, I keep moving forward and growing, becoming a person that I would want to be friends with and attracting like-minded people into my life.

I do think differently and see things differently than I did even twelve months ago. Even weeks ago! And it’s because I continuously educate myself, learning is a lifestyle that I will never waiver from because that is who I am. A student of life. Along the way, I see things with new knowledge which is how I see things differently. To think that one knows everything and to stop reading, listening and watching is somewhat self righteous and ignorant, in my opinion.

How do you think of yourself? Are you still out there learning and sharing? have you changed the way you see things over the years? I’d love to know what you think so please drop a comment below and lets have a conversation :)

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  1. Hi Sonia

    I know what you mean. Change is constant and sadly some people are not aware that we do change. I have seen friends call me names just because my mindset changed about certain things.

    As you brilliantly shared, our mindset will keep changing as our learn from our experiences. Thanks for sharing. Take Care

    1. Hi Ikechi!
      I am so sorry that you have been called names! That is terrible. Exclusion from particular social groups is hurtful too and this has happened to me. However, the doors opened up to like-minded people and the voids have been filled with friends that love and believe in me which is awesome. I hope that you find the same.

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